By being informed you are less likely to overspend, less likely to fall into a trap or scam, and more likely to have a successful and positive surrogacy journey.
Being financially informed or aware is the most important. Take a good look at your current financial situation. How much money do you earn, how much money do you spend, how much money can you save? Often people don’t have a very good understanding of their current financial situation, and many people do not have any savings to dip into when they are diagnosed with infertility. Are there areas you can cut your spending? Perhaps that coffee addiction or movie collection can be curbed? Do you really need the deluxe cable channels or exotic vacations? I’m not saying don’t live your life, but keep things in perspective if you want to have a child. Sacrificing things now to afford your dream of becoming a parent will be worth it.
By being medically informed, you can be your own advocate. Often, reproductive endocrinology and infertility specialists follow the same protocol for all similar patients. If you do your own research and find people with a condition similar to your own tend to have better results when they do things a little differently during their IVF or surrogacy, bring it up to your RE. They may take that into consideration, which can help you achieve a more favorable outcome.
With surrogacy, there is so much to learn, and it can feel overwhelming. But your research can also help you feel more in control of the process. There are many ways to learn more, joining groups on Facebook and following along with group posts or asking your own specific questions, reading books (paperback or e-books) and talking with parents that have gone through it, or having a professional walk you through the process. If you chose to hire an agency to do the work for you, it can be very expensive.